Internal Family Systems Therapy

Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy is a compassionate, structured approach to counselling and psychotherapy that supports people in developing a deeper, more understanding relationship with themselves. In my work, IFS offers a way to explore inner experience with curiosity and care, helping to foster clarity, self-compassion, and meaningful change.

IFS is grounded in the idea that we all have different “parts” of ourselves. These parts may show up as an inner critic, a people-pleaser, a protector, or other familiar patterns. Rather than viewing these parts as problems to eliminate, IFS understands them as meaningful responses that developed to help us cope and survive.

At the centre of this approach is what IFS refers to as the Self — a grounded, compassionate, and authentic presence that can relate to all parts with understanding. Therapy supports access to this Self-led perspective, allowing internal experience to be approached with greater ease and respect.

How IFS Informs My Work

In my practice, IFS is woven into a relational and trauma-informed approach to therapy. I use IFS as a way of orienting toward inner experience as it naturally arises in session. 

Together, we may explore thoughts, emotions, bodily sensations, images, or impulses as expressions of different parts. This process supports understanding how internal patterns developed, what they are trying to protect, and how they might shift when met with curiosity rather than judgment.

IFS can support:

  • Greater self-understanding and internal clarity

  • A more compassionate relationship with difficult emotions

  • Increased emotional regulation and flexibility

  • Healing of wounds shaped by past or relational experiences

The emphasis is always on safety, trust, and collaboration.

Soft fern casting natural shadows—symbolizing parts work, internal complexity, and the gentle process of IFS Therapy.

What Sessions Can Look Like

IFS sessions unfold within the same reflective and relational space as the rest of my work. We move at a pace that feels grounded and respectful, allowing insight and emotional processing to develop organically.

Rather than “fixing” parts or pushing for change, the work involves building trust with inner experience. Over time, many people find that parts begin to soften, shift, or reorganize as they feel more understood and less burdened by the roles they have carried.

While the therapist serves as a guide, the longer-term aim is to support you in developing a more self-led relationship with your inner world.

Who This Approach May Be Helpful For

IFS therapy may be a good fit if you:

  • Feel pulled in different internal directions or experience inner conflict

  • Struggle with self-criticism, substance use, addictions, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm

  • Want to understand patterns that repeat despite insight or effort

  • Are curious about a gentle, non-pathologizing approach to healing

  • Want to relate to yourself with greater compassion and clarity

IFS often resonates with people who value depth, curiosity, and respect for the complexity of inner life.

How This Fits Within My Practice

Internal Family Systems is a central framework within my work and is complemented by somatic and humanistic approaches. Together, these perspectives support both inner awareness and relational connection.

You can learn more about how these approaches come together here:

→ Counselling & Psychotherapy

If you are curious about how therapy may unfold over time, you may also find it helpful to explore examples drawn from clinical experience:

→ What Therapy Can Look Like

Next Steps

If this approach resonates with you, the next step is to book a complimentary discovery call. This offers an opportunity to ask questions, share what brings you here, and explore whether working together feels like a good fit.

 

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Simon Erlich Counselling & Psychotherapy
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✉︎ simon@simonerlich.com